So. I don’t post about wedding resources and advice because, hello, there are already about 33 million blogs out there that fill that need better than I ever could (because unlike some lucky internet empires, I have, like, a job. A job that makes me go to it and do things that are completely different from blogging about my wedding! The nerve of those people).*
I have been following wedding blogs since January.** I have seen the gamut of blogs out there, and it is mind-boggling. The thing about the internet is that it’s helped spawn so many minute niches of wedding styles. There is something for everyone out there, and there is room for everyone out there, from traditional to bizarre. Even someone like me, just kind of bumbling along, writing about my own experience just for the experience of it.
When I first started reading wedding blogs, I subscribed to Martha Stewart Weddings and The Knot, only to delete their feeds after a few weeks. It was just. Too. Much. Maybe not for you, but for me. I had to adjust the volume. I had to learn to turn off the voices that are telling you what to do. Keep returning to the voices that encourage you, that tell you you’re OK, that provide a healthy dose of perspective and a good boot to the rear of advice. Find those blogs that do that for you, and you will be fine. And more sane.
My blogroll is what helps keep me sane, most notably A Practical Wedding and Accordions and Lace. In fact, a recent Accordions and Lace post on the name change question, and its subsequent thought-provoking comments, gave voice to the disparate feelings I’ve been having about that issue. I cannot put into words how valuable a resource these types of posts, these types of blogs, are to me, and to all of us. Where else can we hash out the things we are going through, and the problems we are grappling with?
But the thing is, all these blogs I turn to? Are written by ladies who have gotten married in the past few months (or years). So now they’re talking about the experience of being married, and what it means to be married. And I think that’s awesome; we should never lose sight of the ultimate end game. But I’m really starting to miss the sound of voices who are going through what I’m going through right now. I know there are bloggers out there right this second who are contemplating invitation ideas and debating the relative merits of photography styles. There are bloggers out there who are struggling to define what the ceremony means to them, and writing pros and cons lists involving iPod versus DJ. I just can’t seem to find them.
Do you know one of these bloggers? Are you one of these bloggers? Are you a non-blogger who just wants to talk about the things that are on your mind? Hell, are you an old married lady who can offer your observations? Tell me about it! Feel free to start commenting, or email me at anotherdamnwedding (at) gmail.com. I really want to hear from you. Let’s get this internet soundboard party started.
* I was late to this same job today because I was standing in the living room typing feverishly on my laptop, which was propped against the back of the couch. Hey, you cannot ignore the flash of inspiration.
** For the record, this was six months before I actually got engaged. Yeah. I’m that kind.
If it makes you feel better, I struggled to find like-minded blogs when I first got engaged too, and it seemed like all the ladies I loved had already gotten married. But they will come! Before long I had an awesome bloggy cohort; it just takes some time to find them, and the closer you get to your wedding date, the more cool women will start blogs, too.
Yes, that does make me feel better! Thanks for your thoughts. It helps just to know that you’ve been through a similar thing.
* happies *